Chasing Your Dream vs. Enjoying What You've Got
However, on the other hand, I think some bits of wisdom are tossed around as infallible, when in fact, they are. The ones I've pondered about recently are those phrases that encourage all of us to keep trying to achieve our wildest dreams. "Chase your dream", "go for it", "give 100%", and many more are commonly thrown around, encouraging us to "be all we can be".
My problem with that wisdom is that if you take it without thinking, you miss the trade-offs that you accept by giving maximum effort to chase a dream. Sure, if you're using it to motivate yourself to get out of a semi-comatose haze on the couch, that's great. However, if laziness isn't the problem, and you're choosing between working your ass off chasing a dream versus doing other rewarding activities, then the common wisdom can be misleading.
Enough of the general chatter, let me get specific. Over the last decade or so, I've chosen to work a lot more than I have to in order to try and realize a dream of mine. That dream is to create something (that something has changed many times), and in the process, become my own boss and have the freedom to pursue a lot of my crazier notions that are difficult to accomplish with a normal job. These include living various places around the globe, visiting friends and family without limitation, having time to master hobbies, etc.
From a lifestyle perspective, my dream is to work on specific length projects rather than continuously. I don't mind burning the candle at both ends to accomplish a goal, but I'd like some indefinite leave at the end of the rainbow.
When I was younger, my belief was that I could accomplish these dreams while also enjoying all of life's fruits along the way. Unfortunately, that's just not possible. Simply put, all those hours you're busting hump you could be enjoying yourself. I felt I could become more efficient and squeeze more in. At some point, you squeeze things out. That became crystal clear after working on a previous film project and missing several oft-discussed camping trips with my friends.
Why do it? Is it better to chase the dream or to bear life's necessary work and focus on enjoying your free time?
This is a central theme in "Standards of Ethical Conduct". Heff is tirelessly working while watching his roommate Binger endlessly recreate and ignore conventional wisdom, causing Heff to question his own choices.
I don't have an answer, but I thought it would be interesting to see both points of view. I'll give mine, which will tell the dream-chaser side. I've recruited Rob, one of my closest friends, and the best person I know to talk about working only enough to pay for his various hobbies and travels. He'll tell the other side of the story, the one of a person who maximizes his daily enjoyment at the expense of any wild dreams.
It's not a stretch to say that I've often looked over the fence at Rob's lifestyle and wondered if I'm making the right choices. I'm anxious to find out how the view looks from his backyard. Check back Thursday for Rob's post.
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I posted some production stills from "Standards of Ethical Conduct" on the Facebook Fan page. Take a ride back to 2005 and see what I look like with hair. Below is Jason Coviello showing off his vertical. He goes on to dunk this.
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